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Mmerose's avatar

That is a LOT to bite off 'n chew. Anybody coming after me, I recommend sticking with it. I end up going back to the beginning, to lessons from the Ghetto. I had an initial, cumulative gut reflection that a person "internalizing" those experiences would incorporate a lot of self-confidence and self-respect. This would be contrary to the rules I experienced as a white middle-class female Baby-Boomer. I particularly could have benefitted from ##s 1, 6, and 8. I was emphatically conditioned to respect and admire, and be intimidated by, people who despised my father and myself with dogmatic and irrational arbitrariness. This was fully participated in by my mother, in line with her family. I humbly share that after I at least became conscious of the injustice, from time to time I have privately characterized the role of myself and my father in this authoritarian dynamic as being the designated "ni----rs" of the family. But I didn't have Ghetto rules to build me up. I duly despised my (white, of course!) father as my mother taught me, and soaked up the mantra that I was a "lazy bum" just like him. (He wasn't!) I think it is pretty well recognized that white authoritarians 1) need scapegoats, and 2) are compulsively suspicious of anybody they identify as "too smart." (The culture war on the "Ivory Tower" is perennial, and tangled up with AntiSemitism. Nobody in my world was Jewish, but the raw "too smart" meme was definitely operative.) Now at age 71, I am entranced particularly by the confidence and assertiveness of black WOMEN. I often find myself thinking some version of, that lady got all my guts, and then some! I was definitely not allowed to have any guts, and cringe to this day when anybody, no matter how kindly, calls me "young lady." Do they say that in the Ghetto? In my world, "Young Lady" definitely meant "sit down and shut up." Jasmine Crockett is my goddess!

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Karen Scofield's avatar

Food for Thought;Rohn, I can't remember the last time I've read a piece quite like yours? and I thank you for the Jolt. Before I go to sleep tonight, I Had to acknowledge via this medium how much you've moved me?! May I touch base tomorrow? simply astounding ...

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